If you have borderline personality disorder (BPD), you probably feel as though you are standing on an unstable surface — not just because of the intense unstable emotional outbursts or turbulent relationships – but also because the sense of who you are changes frequently.
Your self-image, your goals, even your likes and dislikes, may change frequently in ways that can feel confusing. Adding in symptoms like hallucinations and dissociation, it can feel like this instability might never end.
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is one of ten recognised personality disorders. It is a serious mental illness that causes extreme and/or intense emotions, which are often difficult to control, and it can also cause anxiety, depression, self-harm, suicidal thoughts, trust and abandonment issues and more.
If someone you care about has BPD, you might find it hard to understand their feelings or behaviours, or the symptoms they are struggling with. Understanding the condition is the first step to helping your loved one.
The important things to remember are:
- try to be patient – this isn’t their fault, and they can’t help it
- stay calm – it’s hard to stay calm when your loved one is full of rage or distressed, but staying calm is the best way to help them calm down
- let them know you are there – knowing they have someone stable and supportive in their corner can make all the difference
- look after yourself – as the saying goes ‘you can’t pour from an empty cup’, so make sure to look after your own mental health and wellbeing
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